An open letter from Mr. Right

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Dear daughters of God,

Contrary to what you have heard, I do exist. I’m no fairytale hunk with big muscles and thing for chick flicks (although, I may or may not have a man bun). So, put your daydreams of love off to the side for a minute and let me tell you what makes me, “Mr. Right” and why people keep telling you to wait for me.

The first thing I really want for you to understand is that I was not born your Mr. Right. I promise we weren’t destined to cross paths and lock eyes from across a crowded room and fall hopelessly in love. God has been working in my heart for YEARS! Do you realize what was in my heart before Christ saved me?! Of course you don’t because we haven’t met yet, but I can promise you it is equally as crazy and sinful as what you’ve been walking through. That is why I need some time… And it is also why you need the same. Let’s do each other a huge favor and give one another the time to heal from our pasts and become something different; something whole. I know that you’ve spent a lot of time feeling less than whole, like you’re missing something, and so have I. But now we have both been made new in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17) and need to take some time to learn to walk in this new wholeness. So, I’m going to give you that space and promise not to pursue you until God has made it clear that you are in the right season in your faith.

But here is the kicker and the second thing I need you to know… As patient and trusting in God’s timing as I am, this thing between you and I also hinges on your obedience and trust in the Lord. Have you ever read the Song of Solomon? There is a part in there that I will never forget. It says, “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem (Daughters of God); not to awaken love before the time is right” (NLT Emphasis Mine). Let me fill you in on why she says that. She is begging women not hurry into love for two reasons; one, because the real thing is so worth the wait. And two, because being joined with a person out of season is one of the most painful things someone can experience. Sure you can frolic in lala land for a little while, but what happens when the romance and passion subsides and your left with just your hearts, left open and bare? What happens when the struggles hit and the person you’re with isn’t strong enough to fight the good fight of faith? What happens when they mess up and you’re expected to show them the same grace Christ showed you? I’ll tell you what happens, things will fall apart. Whether on the surface or beneath it, things will fall apart…. That’s the truth, if two people are not both firmly rooted in their faith in Christ, they will suffer for that lack together. I could walk you through almost any church and show you marriage after marriage where people are suffering because they aroused love before it’s time. They are paying for the consequences of that decision decades down the road. Which is why we must join together in patience, even though we are apart.

Here is what we are working towards and the third thing I need you to know: God has asked me to be so much like Christ that you are able to submit to me as unto Him (Ephesians 5:22-33). And He is asking you to be able to submit to me and point me to Jesus by your actions, even when I’m acting like a fool (1 Peter 3:1-6). So take a minute and think… Could you really do that right now? I’m getting closer, but I don’t think I could do that just yet. But when God gives me a peace about the continual growth of my own faith, I will know and I’ll be obedient to pursue you. And you will know that it is me because I will respectfully, tactfully, and politely pursue you with very clear intentions. When a guy begins to talk to you, know that it’s me because I’ll be respectful and not flirting with you via text. Know that it’s me because I’ll be clear that I’m asking you on a date and won’t create an atmosphere where you have to question what we are doing or where we stand. Know that it’s me because when we are dating, I’ll not only be respectful of your emotional and physical boundaries, but also have some of my own. And know that it’s me because I’ll be more interested in your faith and what your relationship with Jesus looks like than being romantic and creating surface level connections.

So, please wait for me. For your sake and my own, wait. Wait because God is telling you to wait. Wait because you have more growing to do. Wait because I have more growing to do. And wait because it will be worth it. Because at the end of the day, the reason I’m not pursuing you yet is because I’m just not ready. And the reason you’re not being pursued by me yet is that you’re just not ready. So join with me in individually submitting to God…Even if that means that there actually isn’t a Mr. or Mrs. Right waiting for us… Can we be ok with that? Can we trust God and be okay with whatever the outcome, knowing that we have already received all we need in His Son? That’s a hard question, but until you’re in a place where you’re okay with never getting married, you won’t be in a place where I will be able to pursue you. Thinking of and praying for you,

– Mr. Right

304 thoughts on “An open letter from Mr. Right

  1. This is exactly what I would like to share to “her” who jumped into a wrong relationship with a married man.

    I pray this would reach her. I know the “Mr. Right” will come at God’s perfect time. Pls wait patiently, girl. Guard your heart 💗.

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  3. Dear Mr. Right,

    I can’t help but respond to your letter. First, thank you for reminding us about faith, real thing, love, patience, and what makes Mr. Right. This time, allow me to share with you a glimpse of Mrs. Right and who she is not.

    We grew up with stories of Cinderella, Snow White and Sleeping Beauty. And we get close to the idea of Prince Charming – a dashing handsome and romantic savior. But our journey in life is not easy at all and so deep in our hearts we know life is not a fairy tale. We are not looking for Prince Charming. We are looking for you. We want you.

    Another thing is about that ‘waiting’. Women like me are living each day the best way they can, embracing what life has to offer. By God’s grace, we are making our dreams come true, for ourselves and for the people He has given us as gifts. We had hurts, failures and disappointments in the past. But through faith, hope and love, we remain standing to get things done. You see, we are busy. Our life is not just all about ‘waiting’. We are living, with only tiny bits of waiting. So be at peace and know that we are not becoming impatient. Like you, we also need more time to grow up in spirit, heart and mind. God is still at work within us.

    My last point is on the possibility of having no Mr. Right. I sometimes wonder if it is fair that while Olive got Popeye and Katniss got Peeta, I got no one. Na mas mabuti pa ang dinuguan may puto. But then, realizing how God has been great to my life gives me peace and joy. HIS love gets me going. HIS love is the greatest gift I got. And what if one day, I meet Mr. Right? Then I will thank God for another gift. Take care.

    Might be seeing you,
    Mrs. Right

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  5. Reblogged this on CAPTURED BY CHRIST and commented:
    So, please wait for me. For your sake and my own, wait. Wait because God is telling you to wait. Wait because you have more growing to do. Wait because I have more growing to do. And wait because it will be worth it. Because at the end of the day, the reason I’m not pursuing you yet is because I’m just not ready. And the reason you’re not being pursued by me yet is that you’re just not ready. So join with me in individually submitting to God…Even if that means that there actually isn’t a Mr. or Mrs. Right waiting for us… Can we be ok with that? Can we trust God and be okay with whatever the outcome, knowing that we have already received all we need in His Son? That’s a hard question, but until you’re in a place where you’re okay with never getting married, you won’t be in a place where I will be able to pursue you. Thinking of and praying for you,

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    1. You don’t have to experience the so-called “unnecessary pain”. But they often say your past will not dictate your future. Begin again. 🙂

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  6. Beautiful. Thank you for writing this so that so many can see this truth. It’s the same thing I tell many ladies as I share my story of how my husband and I ended up together. It was entirely made right because it was entirely in the right time.

    Write on ladies! It’s an awesome blog you have here. I just started this blogging thing as well this year – lifeasafamilee.com. Looking forward to reading more of your posts!

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  7. Reblogged this on Girl vs. Reality and commented:
    If you are on Facebook, you have definitely seen this post floating around. I have scrolled by it many times, but I have never actually read it until about ten minutes ago. I really wish I would have read it sooner. It’s incredibly written. Personally, I found it extremely uplifting. (not gonna lie it’s saved on my bookmarks bar now) Anyway, I just wanted to share it because this post deserves so much recognition.

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  8. For the most part, I think this is a well written article that has a lot of great reminders. However, there is one point that I take issue with. Right at the end you say, “but until you’re in a place where you’re okay with never getting married, you won’t be in a place where I will be able to pursue you.” I would have to disagree with that statement. I truly believe that there are some people with such a strong desire to marry and have children that it is impossible for them to feel that they are “okay with never getting married.” I would say the statement would be more true if you say that you should be content with being single right now. There is a difference between being happy and single now, and saying that you would be fine with never getting married in the future. Some people have such a strong desire for marriage and a family, that even when they are content with being single, there is a longing in the heart for something more in the future. Not everyone is made the same. Some will be single for their whole life, and some feel like they are supposed to get married, even when they are still single. Just because you feel a strong desire for marriage sometime in the future does not mean that you are in the wrong. It’s just a desire that God has put in your heart. I hope you can understand that.

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    1. Thank you so much for that, Rose. Such a great comment. The heart behind that statement is that we want women to first be content in the Father. Of course, if that desire to marry and have children is strong- then Paul said to do it and we agree with Paul. We just strive for girls to love the Father with every facet of their being, but only He can make that happen. I (Bre), completely agree with you and I am so glad to hear from you, our sweet sister. Can’t wait to read more of your comments.

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    2. I agree. The desire to be a wife and mother is a God given desire and should be embraced such as any desire.

      I also understand the hope of the blogger though that we would seek God above all and be content where He has us while we wait.

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    1. Thank you for the reblog, sister! We are all so thrilled that you got something out of it and we will be amazed how many other sisters stand strong and waiting for the man that God intended for them. Love and praying for you, sister!

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  9. I am writing a motivational book called “She is Strong”. It will be a testimonial book filled with short stories from women of all ages and paths that overcame hardships, destructive relationships, battles, diseases, family issues, mental issues, loss of loved ones, and anything that God healed and delivered you from! You came in mind for the idea of this book and I think your story will inspire other women. If you have a powerful testimony you would like to share, send your submission to oprahzip@gmail.com or mykeltrent@rocketmail.com . Include your name, age, contact info, and your story (must be at least two pages or more in Times New Roman 12 pt. font) . The deadline for submissions is December 30, 2015! For any questions or concerns, contact the emails above. Please keep in mind we will be having a high volume of submissions, so please be patient with our feedback. You will be notified if your testimony is chosen for publication. Peace and blessings to you!

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  10. This is so beautiful and amazingly written! Thank you for the wonderful reminder that waiting isn’t in vain. A wonderful man of God awaits, and even if he doesn’t, I’m still loved by the best, God!

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  11. Reblogged this on francescaph and commented:
    Dear God,
    Give me the patient to wait for the man that you intend me to marry. Teach me not to be jealous of what I saw around me. Teach me to obey you and chase you first before chasing anyone else. Protect his heart and my heart Lord . Make us both ready when the time is right. Teach us to love you first so that in our relationship we can bring you glory and honor. Amen.

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  12. Dear God,
    Give me the patient to wait for the man that you intend me to marry. Teach me not to be jealous of what I saw around me. Teach me to obey you and chase you first before chasing anyone else. Protect his heart and my heart Lord . Make us both ready when the time is right. Teach us to love you first so that in our relationship we can bring you glory and honor. Amen.

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  13. Dear God,
    Give me the patience to wait for the man that you intend me to marry. Teach me not to be jealous of what I saw around me. Teach me to obey you and chase you first before chasing anyone else. Protect his heart and my heart Lord . Make us both ready when the time is right. Teach us to love you first so that in our relationship we can bring you glory and honor. Amen.

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  14. Ooh Lord, I know it is very hard to wait in you. As the bible says…. wait in the Lord, be strong and wait in the Lord…..If I am not strong I cannot wait. Sometimes I think waiting is a wastage of time, sometimes I loose hope n think that marriage wasn’t made for me. But I now believe that, you Lord have good plans for me so I should wait. I also understand that good things happen to those who wait n believe. Lord I thank for your grace that I am still waiting for not all are able to wait. Help me Lord to put you first for the time I am waiting and for the rest of my life. Help me understand the true purpose of this season in my life.

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  15. Oh gosh, where do I begin? This letter brought so much needed conviction! I read it over and over again (when I start to feel down and hopeless). 🙂 I’m so free, at peace and contently enjoying my singleness pursuing Jesus, the Greatest Romance of all.<3

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