An open letter from Mr. Right

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Dear daughters of God,

Contrary to what you have heard, I do exist. I’m no fairytale hunk with big muscles and thing for chick flicks (although, I may or may not have a man bun). So, put your daydreams of love off to the side for a minute and let me tell you what makes me, “Mr. Right” and why people keep telling you to wait for me.

The first thing I really want for you to understand is that I was not born your Mr. Right. I promise we weren’t destined to cross paths and lock eyes from across a crowded room and fall hopelessly in love. God has been working in my heart for YEARS! Do you realize what was in my heart before Christ saved me?! Of course you don’t because we haven’t met yet, but I can promise you it is equally as crazy and sinful as what you’ve been walking through. That is why I need some time… And it is also why you need the same. Let’s do each other a huge favor and give one another the time to heal from our pasts and become something different; something whole. I know that you’ve spent a lot of time feeling less than whole, like you’re missing something, and so have I. But now we have both been made new in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17) and need to take some time to learn to walk in this new wholeness. So, I’m going to give you that space and promise not to pursue you until God has made it clear that you are in the right season in your faith.

But here is the kicker and the second thing I need you to know… As patient and trusting in God’s timing as I am, this thing between you and I also hinges on your obedience and trust in the Lord. Have you ever read the Song of Solomon? There is a part in there that I will never forget. It says, “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem (Daughters of God); not to awaken love before the time is right” (NLT Emphasis Mine). Let me fill you in on why she says that. She is begging women not hurry into love for two reasons; one, because the real thing is so worth the wait. And two, because being joined with a person out of season is one of the most painful things someone can experience. Sure you can frolic in lala land for a little while, but what happens when the romance and passion subsides and your left with just your hearts, left open and bare? What happens when the struggles hit and the person you’re with isn’t strong enough to fight the good fight of faith? What happens when they mess up and you’re expected to show them the same grace Christ showed you? I’ll tell you what happens, things will fall apart. Whether on the surface or beneath it, things will fall apart…. That’s the truth, if two people are not both firmly rooted in their faith in Christ, they will suffer for that lack together. I could walk you through almost any church and show you marriage after marriage where people are suffering because they aroused love before it’s time. They are paying for the consequences of that decision decades down the road. Which is why we must join together in patience, even though we are apart.

Here is what we are working towards and the third thing I need you to know: God has asked me to be so much like Christ that you are able to submit to me as unto Him (Ephesians 5:22-33). And He is asking you to be able to submit to me and point me to Jesus by your actions, even when I’m acting like a fool (1 Peter 3:1-6). So take a minute and think… Could you really do that right now? I’m getting closer, but I don’t think I could do that just yet. But when God gives me a peace about the continual growth of my own faith, I will know and I’ll be obedient to pursue you. And you will know that it is me because I will respectfully, tactfully, and politely pursue you with very clear intentions. When a guy begins to talk to you, know that it’s me because I’ll be respectful and not flirting with you via text. Know that it’s me because I’ll be clear that I’m asking you on a date and won’t create an atmosphere where you have to question what we are doing or where we stand. Know that it’s me because when we are dating, I’ll not only be respectful of your emotional and physical boundaries, but also have some of my own. And know that it’s me because I’ll be more interested in your faith and what your relationship with Jesus looks like than being romantic and creating surface level connections.

So, please wait for me. For your sake and my own, wait. Wait because God is telling you to wait. Wait because you have more growing to do. Wait because I have more growing to do. And wait because it will be worth it. Because at the end of the day, the reason I’m not pursuing you yet is because I’m just not ready. And the reason you’re not being pursued by me yet is that you’re just not ready. So join with me in individually submitting to God…Even if that means that there actually isn’t a Mr. or Mrs. Right waiting for us… Can we be ok with that? Can we trust God and be okay with whatever the outcome, knowing that we have already received all we need in His Son? That’s a hard question, but until you’re in a place where you’re okay with never getting married, you won’t be in a place where I will be able to pursue you. Thinking of and praying for you,

– Mr. Right

304 thoughts on “An open letter from Mr. Right

  1. Hi! That was a good read. As a guy, I actually find some realizations about myself after reading it. Can I share it in our group page so others can read it and maybe, they’ll find some realizations, too in search for their “right” person.

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    1. Well of course! We hoped that could be something that would be done. I suggest you share this and then read Matthew 19 with your small group. We are honored that you enjoyed it and gained something from it. Praying for you, sweet Jim!

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  2. Reblogged this on In Princess' Heart and commented:
    Read: An Open Letter from Mr. Right

    So, please wait for me. For your sake and my own, wait. Wait because God is telling you to wait. Wait because you have more growing to do. Wait because I have more growing to do. And wait because it will be worth it. Because at the end of the day, the reason I’m not pursuing you yet is because I’m just not ready. And the reason you’re not being pursued by me yet is that you’re just not ready. So join with me in individually submitting to God…Even if that means that there actually isn’t a Mr. or Mrs. Right waiting for us… Can we be ok with that? Can we trust God and be okay with whatever the outcome, knowing that we have already received all we need in His Son? That’s a hard question, but until you’re in a place where you’re okay with never getting married, you won’t be in a place where I will be able to pursue you.

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  3. Thank you for this personal message. It’s an awakening reminder for me to seek God’s Kingdom first, to give to the Lord the first affections of my heart, to never give up on hope as long as you are alive, to persist/persevere in prayer, and to wait patiently for God’s own perfect timing for my Mr. Right.
    Praying for you and God Bless you.

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    1. Wow, what a comment to wake up to! I (Bre) am so glad that we have such warriors that are willing to endure these long season. Praying for you, sweet Nene. Can’t wait to hear from you again!

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  4. WOW such a great message 🙂 I really need this. Please pray for me because I have a friend that right now we’re on a Mutual Understanding stage. He is also a Christian. We’re College. There’s a half of me saying it’s not right doing it, but there’s a part of me saying it’s just fine. Because It’s like that I can feel He is Already Mr. Right, since I keep praying for my Mr. Right’s qualities and he got almost of it. And I keep praying for signs if He is already The One and it’s like God’s answers are pointing to Him, but it’s Not Yet Time. But It’s Already Him. I don’t know…

    I’m not sure of what he thinks and feels about me, because we’re emotionally and physically intimate(since he’s really naturally touchy tho, showing love through touches, even to our other friends he’s like that, there’s a little bit higher level towards me) we don’t have a title, but we believe we’re just “Friends”, but we know that we treat and our feelings are “More than Friends”.

    One day we talked and conclude about our feelings. In the end we talked that we should just stay and treat as “Really Friends” since it’s not yet our time and made our intimacy stops for a while. Then he keeps telling me that he will wait until we graduate, and he will pursue me after we graduate when he has already work and savings. But right now, its seems like our intimacy is going back. And that made me bother if he is really waiting and it’s just his natural personality of being touchy, or the way he treats me with physical intimacy makes me feel he is not Really waiting and just taking advantage?

    Please correct my mindsets.. 😦 About being he’s already mr. right, about our relationship and feelings, about his personality, and about his mindsets of waiting. Please help me.. Thank you 🙂

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    1. Hello Princess! Everything is in God’s timing. If you know that you both should wait then I would wait completely on everything. Physically and emotionally. God is faithful in speaking to us and showing us what we need to do. Just trust Him. And if you believe that you both should stop everything physically and emotionally, and your friend doesn’t stop that then maybe he isn’t Mr. Right. Mr. Right will respect the boundaries that you put up because he wants to be honorable. You are worth far more than the most precious jewels. We are praying that you put up those boundaries and that your friend will respect that. And if he doesn’t maybe this is a time for you to fully trust in God and thrive in singleness. We love you! Your are God’s Princess!!!

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  5. Will save this article for my daughter. She’s still 5. I’ve known first-hand how painful a wrong relationship is. I don’t want her to do the same mistake that I did. I pray God will work into her life as she grows older and live her life according to His will. Thank u for this. God Bless you.

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    1. Wow. That is an amazing compliment. We are praying for her, praying that she will pursue Jesus. And praying for you, that you allow the Lord to heal that pain and that you will be open with her as she is growing up. My parents were excellent at telling me their mistakes and I learned from them without having to walk through that situation on my own. Love you already, sweet sister.

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      1. Thank you. God has already healed my past pain. I’m from the Philippines and now i am getting married to a very nice and God-fearing military guy. Will be coming to Texas this August with my daughter. It has been a rough road for me but now I finally met my Mr. Right. Thank u so much. All the blessings to ur group.

        Love lots,
        Kathlein

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      2. Kathlein! That is so great, we are praying that you will have a thriving marriage. One that many will find Jesus through your union. Hope to hear from you soon, sending our love electronically!!

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  6. This open letter brought me to tears. I was so glad that my Lord Jesus Christ is just so faithful and that whatever happens in my future, I have already put my trust in His hands. I was refreshed and enlightened. Waiting may seem so difficult but the purpose of my life is to serve Christ all the more and make His name known throughout the nations. So that when He comes back, I could hear these words: “Well done, my good and faithful servant!” Praise be to God! ❤

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    1. Wow, that was almost verbatim my prayer the other day, Beverly! We are just four girls that love Jesus so much that we would lay anything that would cause our relationship to not grow. Any desire, it’s His. Like you, we are pressing on that day! One of my biggest fears is that He will gently show me, when I am in Heaven, all the things I could have done if I obeyed. That’s scary. So, I am laying it all at His feet. Praying with you, our sweet love!

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  7. Twas a very good read. This brought me tears. Reminds me to trust God’s timing, never early and never late. It’s best to be faithful to Him in this season of waiting. ☺️👍

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  8. Reblogged this on and commented:
    “So, please wait for me. For your sake and my own, wait. Wait because God is telling you to wait. Wait because you have more growing to do. Wait because I have more growing to do. And wait because it will be worth it. Because at the end of the day, the reason I’m not pursuing you yet is because I’m just not ready. And the reason you’re not being pursued by me yet is that you’re just not ready. So join with me in individually submitting to God…Even if that means that there actually isn’t a Mr. or Mrs. Right waiting for us… Can we be ok with that? Can we trust God and be okay with whatever the outcome, knowing that we have already received all we need in His Son? That’s a hard question, but until you’re in a place where you’re okay with never getting married, you won’t be in a place where I will be able to pursue you.”

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  9. Reblogged this on ugaycielo and commented:
    “When a guy begins to talk to you, know that it’s me because I’ll be respectful and not flirting with you via text. Know that it’s me because I’ll be clear that I’m asking you on a date and won’t create an atmosphere where you have to question what we are doing or where we stand.”

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  10. This open letter is just so powerful in today’s view of true LOVE. I can’t help but to smile the moment I read this because I felt like I am on the right track and I am choosing the right decision to pursue God first above anything else. He’s now on top of my priority list and whenever I get tempted to be impatient and hurry in love, I get to remind myself that right here, right now — all I want is to enjoy my life and make the best out of it–by first make my relationship to him even deeper and stronger than before, rest assured that in his perfect time combined with his faithfulness and perfect love,the right person will come. 🙂
    For sure I will never get tired of reading this until that day someone will become my home. ❤

    Btw, Thanks for writing this.

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    1. Wow! I love reading these comments because they give ME endurance and strength! We are praying alongside you, lioness. Praying that the Lord uses such a faithful servant to glorify His Kingdom.
      Btw, thanks for reading ❤️

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  11. Reblogged this on Little things matter and commented:
    Thank you, you who are speaking on behalf of my future one. And my dear future one,
    “may you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy, giving thanks to the Father” Colossians 1:11. The times we find ourselves having to wait on each other may be the perfect opportunities to train ourselves to wait on the Lord. 🙂

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  12. Wow,thank you so much for this article,and to my friend Kamo who forwarded this link to me. This is just what i needed to hear. I shall continue to dwell in his presence,as i patiently wait upon Him,His timing is always perfect! Thanks again,be blessed.

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  13. Heya, I was sooooooo blessed by this post!!!! It’s came at the right time!!! Honestly it was what I needed to hear at that point in time. It’s sooo crazy how God works😂😂 I asked him for an answer and he did just that…. It’s just ssooooo funny but I read this and it was like my “Mr Right” was speaking directly to me encouraging me to keep waiting and after reading this my whole perspective on relationships changed for the best. I thank God for this blog and for all your lives. I pray he continues to bless you as you bless others.

    God bless x

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  14. Reblogged this on What Would Jesus Blog? and commented:
    Single ladies out there who are tired of waiting and not seeing “Mr Right” show up, this letter is for you. Honestly!!! It will open your eyes so much and encourage to keep waiting…. God is still in the process of working on your man, the right man!!! Keep waiting sister, and be encouraged xx

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  15. This article is directly speaking to me. I am on the stage of questioning my Mr. Right or will I ever get married and have my family. This article simply put my worries and doubts to rest. Thank you for this good read. It was indeed an eye opener and an assurance that God planned everything. Just keep the faith and live each day worshiping the almighty Lord.

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    1. Woah!!! We feel the exact same way. We HAVE to learn to be okay living without, if we don’t then how do we still worship when we have all that we need? Do we still run to Him when we are only in despair? No, we praise in all seasons and we know there is a reason we are walking in this moment. Loved reading this, and I already love you, dear one.

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  16. Thank you so much for the encouragement. I’ve been experienced (2 yrs now) a lot of pain, hatred, and bitterness from my past. But I choose to forgive because the Lord forgive us as He said in His word 1 John 1:9 and always reminds me Proverbs 3:5-6 and I must say I’m totally healed. 🙂 And now I’m just waiting and praying for Mr. Right and I believe that In His perfect timings there will be the right one, just seek first His kingdom and righteousness Matthew 6:33.

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    1. Oh man, thank you for that truth. That’s was exactly what we needed to hear today. I love hearing about how our Father does it again- He heals. We are praying with you. That you will be patient during the wait and that people are going to be affected by the decisions that you made now. That you are just waiting out the middle– so cool hearing from you, my sister. Love you long time.

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  17. My Singles small group has been recently talking about being the person that you’re looking for is looking for and I shared this article with them. Thank you for such an uplifting read. It is very refreshing and encouraging to see that there are guys living out their faith and by being the men God has called them to be and encouraging ladies to be the person God has called them to be as well.

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    1. We are so happy that you shared this with your small group and God was able to speak through this post to each individual there to wait on him. We are praying for you and your small group that you flourish in you relationship with our good good father!

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  18. Reblogged this on comacarmina11 and commented:
    Thank you so much for the encouragement. To my fellow singles on the other side of the world who are tired of waiting. Try to read “Letter from Mr. Right” know in our hearts that God is preparing the best and perfect Man for each and everyone of us. It’s best to be faithful to Him in this season of waiting and always remember Matthew 6:33. ☺👍 Truly, God is Good.

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  19. Thanks for this! A few years back I ended my 2.5 year- relationship with my wonderful boyfriend, Brendan. We met and lived in the same country (SG) until his career brought him back to the States, his homeland. We had rough times because of distance and timezones and I reckon priorities. It was very tough and painful for me because I knew and felt he was the guy I have been praying for. However, in one of my prayer times, the Lord told me that “You have to give up the good to receive the great” and that’s the backbone of my decision to break up, to which he was amenable. He kept calling me weekly for 9 weeks till I told him it is not helping me move on. He stopped talking to me and disconnected everything with me. Three years after, I still long for that relationship which I threw away, in what I believe, is my obedience to God. I painfully knew of his relationships after ours but I comfort myself in knowing that God heals all wounds and that God is working on me so I can transform from good to great. And God is doing the same to him, whoever he is-Bren or some other chap after God’s own heart. Even in times when I am so tempted to pour out my feelings and tell him, I am appeased in knowing that God writes magnificent love stories, maybe mine is just bidding its time. Your article is an affirmation. Thanks.

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  20. I was encouraged by this article. Truly that it is very hard waiting for the right man to come. Sometimes, I lost hope if God will truly answer my prayer. Thanks for the author of this article, you inspire people to seek God’s will in their love life.

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  21. Thank you for this great reminder. Waiting is not easy, it never will be but it will always be worth it.

    To my future mate, wherever you are, I’m praying for your heart.

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  22. This is so inspiring, so encouraging. It brought me a new perspective on how and why I am waiting. After reading this, I realize that I really need to change some things. Thank you.

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